Updated: Apr 29
Life is full of special and beautiful moments to be savoured and enjoyed - and your wedding is one of them. You are making considerable investments in working with wedding vendors who will help you execute the vision you have for your wedding day and it is my job as your wedding photographer to make sure that all of those various elements are recorded in images that you will love and cherish over the years.
As a wedding photographer, it is both my honour and a privilege to be a part of your wedding and to celebrate your day and your love with you. And while I celebrate your special day with you, I also have the duty of documenting this one-of-a-kind day for you. My one goal for your wedding is to happily make sure that I capture images that both you and your spouse will treasure for a long, long time. However, the one challenge I face when trying to achieve this goal in your behalf when I have to compete with your guests for images.
How do you mean that you have to compete with our guests to get images?
On your wedding day, everyone will be excited about your day along with you and so it’s only natural for people to want to take pictures of your special day as it unfolds. It’s your guests’ way of saying, “I was here and celebrated this special occasion with you” and I think that it’s wonderful that you will be surrounded by such love and positivity on your special day. To that end, I would encourage you to invite your guests to savour the moment while it’s happening live as opposed to viewing it through the screen of their phones, tablets or cameras for one big reason:
You already have a photographer taking care of things.
By the time your wedding day comes around, we would have already worked our way through the initial consultation, your engagement session as well as thoroughly crafting your wedding day coverage as it relates to the timeline of your day and the shot list of the images you want. At this point, we have already established a great working relationship and odds are that you fully trust me to handle capturing the images of your wedding day. My presence at your wedding allows you to fully immerse yourself in the joy of the day and your guests should feel free to do the same.
They don’t have to feel the need to capture your first kiss at the alter but rather, they can clap and cheer for you both as your seal your love and lifelong commitment with a kiss. They don’t need to trouble themselves with taking pictures of the decorations or table settings when instead they could savour the meal the you, your wedding planner and caterer have carefully selected for this occasion. They don’t need to make sure that they also have pictures of the formal family portraits because they are your family and their presence is of more value to you in the pictures as opposed to behind them.
They are your guests, and their only “duty” on your wedding day is to laugh at the speeches given, eat delicious wedding cake and dance the night away with you.
A couple of easy ways to ensure that you and your guests are fully present and living in the moment of your wedding is to make it known to your guests that you are having an unplugged wedding, and you’d like them to join you in savouring the beauty of your wedding day to the full. Consider mentioning this in your invitations so that right off the bat, that way your guests know of your intentions from the get-go. You could also ask your wedding officiant to remind your guests right at the start of the proceedings that they are attending an unplugged wedding and that both you and your soon-to-be spouse as well as your wedding photographer would really appreciate it if the guests didn’t interfere with the coverage of the wedding day. Every wedding photographer’s worst fear is missing the first kiss, and missing it because one of the guests got in the way of capturing this beautiful moment is something that I truly dread – not only because I will regret not having gotten that shot, btu because you will regret not having that shot as well.
And that is such a shame…
But, it doesn’t have to be that way if you go the route of having an unplugged wedding. We live in a world where we’re almost always on our various devices so, wouldn’t it be a refreshing change for you and your guests get to live in the moment and enjoy every minute of it in the flesh? I guarantee that you will all have a richer experience from being fully present in the moment and it will only enhance the experience of receiving your official wedding photos because they will remind you of what it was like to be there and experiencing the wedding blow-by-blow and it will invoke all of the rich, warm and loving feelings you felt when you were there.
Why wouldn’t you want to experience that?
So let me know what you think about having an unplugged wedding – have you ever considered this idea and is it something that you think you would go for. Let me know your thoughts in the comments and consider signing up to my blog because I have lots more interesting thoughts to share with you.
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